2) Dan, you’re lying when you say you would have gone out with her if she had shown you beforehand that she was fat. 5) Dan, it is okay for women to show pictures of themselves that aren’t real because men on dating websites are so superficial they will immediately pass them by.
6) Dan, maybe she just wanted you to meet her in person before you judged her so that you could discover the beautiful person that she was on the inside.
I can get so hung up on a clothing size that I’ll buy a less flattering but lower number to make myself feel better.
I’ve even shied away from attending events when I felt I was simply “too fat” to fit into any of my clothes.
I’m sure I’ll catch some flack for it (it’s proven to be a touchy subject, after all), but I hope that we can all dismantle our personal angst long enough to have a worthwhile discussion about it.Dear Cary, Currently I’m dating a man who just won’t leave my consciousness, not for a moment. I’ve made a conscious effort to look past it (“it” being my own stupid, shallow, superficial, counterproductive reaction to the weight), but there it is, all of the time. My problem is this: This wonderful man with whom I’ve shared some amazing moments and do share a phenomenal connection … He’s not merely out of shape or a hike and a swim away from fit, he’s fat.Do me a favor and read to the end before leaving any comments as I tie several thoughts together.Also, I hope you understand the symbolism of the photo I chose to use.